Speak to the King in your Husband

(Prov 25:24 GNB)  Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife.

This morning we get back to our series entitled, “Unlocking the Power of Proverbs – Walking in the Wisdom of God.”  The Hebrew word translated “nagging” means: a perpetual annoyance, a wearing out of patience.  Back in chapter 19 Solomon compared the perpetually annoying spouse to the irritating and unrelenting drop after drop of an unwanted and unwelcomed laky faucet.  Have you every had one?  You can use buckets to catch the water, but containers only hold but so much.  Since the leak is unceasing the buckets offer but a temporary solution.  You never get peace until you can actually STOP the leak.  That’s how Solomon saw a nagging wife; as a source of annoyance, aggravation and frustration.

In chapter 18 Solomon said, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD” (18:22).  My wife (Isabella) is a tremendous blessing to me.  The Father knew what he was doing when he connected me with her.  She has been able to bring out the best in me and as this verse says, I have experienced the favor of the Lord because of her.  However, there is a stark contrast between the favor magnet of chapter 18 and the nagging wife of chapter 21.  Both are wives, but one is able to bring out the best in her husband, the other has a knack for bringing out the worst.

I have shared with you before how every man has both a king and a fool in him.  Which ever one is spoken to the most – the one that is nurtured and developed – is the one he will become.  Without a doubt my wife has spoken to the king in me.  She believed in me when no one else did, and to this day she is my biggest fan.  My desire is to pour into her, because she is always pouring into me.  Ladies, never underestimate the power of believing in your husband!  When he knows you believe in him it gives him immeasurable strength.  Even if the world is against him, he can feel unstoppable if he knows you believe in him and that you support him.

Most of the time, whatever I teach to men applies to women and vice-versa, but in this case I believe that we, as men, need the unyielding support of our wives more than they need ours.  Now, of course wives need the support of their husbands.  I am not saying they don’t.  But I am saying that what we (husbands) receive from our wives, by way of belief and support, far outweighs what we do for them.  That’s why it is so devastating to a man when he has a wife who does not believe in him.  And to make matters worse, Solomon describes a wife who takes it a step further and constantly nags her husband.  This is a dangerous situation for the marriage, because before long her husband will dread coming home, and if you don’t speak to the king in him, he will find someone who will.

So what does this mean to you today?  A few things:

1.  For wives: Speak to the king in your husbands.  The more you speak to the king in him, the more he will believe it and become it.

2.  For husbands: Welcome the support of your wife and allow her to speak into your life.  She is graced by God to minister to you in ways that NO ONE ELSE CAN, OR SHOULD!

3.  For husbands and wives:  Never make your spouse dread coming home.  Do all you can to make your home a nurturing and loving environment where dreams are encouraged and believed!

Closing Confession:  Father, I thank You for this revelation.  Your Word is awesome and it shows me how to live and enjoy life to the fullest.  I thank You for my spouse and I declare, by faith, that I will be the blessing to them that You desire for me to be.  I speak life and never death over and into my spouse daily.  I build them up and I never tear them down.  You grace me to minister to my spouse in ways that I only I can and only I should.  My spouse welcomes my input because I always share it in a loving and caring way.  I never make my spouse dread coming come.  Our home is a sanctuary of peace where dreams are encouraged, believed, and supported!  In Jesus’ name.  Amen!

This is Today’s Word!  Apply it and Prosper!